Tips on Filling the Void Left By A Loved One’s Death

By Dorothy Fournier posted 04-18-2021 06:26 PM


The passing of a loved one is perhaps the most emotionally challenging experience. Having lost someone forever is daunting and triggers immense grief. Mourning does not happen in a straight graph. It comes in stages and can last for different periods for every individual. 

There is really no one way to feel the loss or ponder upon and deal with it. Similarly, healing happens on how one can cope with the situation, how the emotions hit, and simply how it affects one’s mental state. Here are some tips that can help you come to terms and deal with the loss-

Get a hold of yourself first

Easier said than done, but it is important to first come to terms with what has happened. Especially in cases where you are the one who has to carry out the funeral activities, you have to get a strong grip on yourself. 

In difficult situations as such, one finds themselves grappling to find a way to be able to plan and carry out funeral processes. Prior planning, as tough as it may sound, is essential. If one has burial insurance in place, then the grieving family does not have to allocate funds and look for solutions at the time when each one is facing such intense emotions. It is thus important to cover for yourself and your family. 

Do not be in complete denial 

The first step is acceptance; only then can healing and trickling back to life can begin to happen. It is important to talk about the loss and, while as difficult as it gets, acceptance that what has happened cannot change. 

Isolation can make the grieving intense and disrupt the natural flow of gradual healing. Staying alone for a long duration can trigger very disturbing thoughts that leave a bad effect on your mind. Keeping the company of people is probably the way that ends up comforting you.

Allow yourself to feel what comes naturally 

The death of a loved one does not just bring sadness. It rather brings a wave of emotions varying from anger, frustration, stress, exhaustion, and the loss of interest to doing any activity. 

If these feelings are not addressed in time, they can lead to trauma or depression that makes coming back to normal life even more difficult and could thus last for a much longer duration, affecting the quality of life.

Seeking professional help can reduce the pain considerably as it can help you in coping with the loss and the emotions that follow after.  

Be your family’s strength

Giving complete support and attention to other family members, being their strength, is a great way to cope personally. Many fail to do it, but if you can muster that courage to keep them as a priority and help them sail through. You will soon find yourself a part of the healing process.

Spend some time doing what feels natural; do not force to feel any emotion. Spend time with people whom you know care, talk to them, share your feelings and listen to theirs. This will help a great deal in realizing that while loss is inevitable, it can still be dealt with.

Find ways to honor their life

It might sound and seem impossible at first to ever smile in their absence, but would you ever imagine that the one you lost would like to see you so grief-stricken? Isn’t the answer a quick no? Try each day to celebrate their life and in happy spirits. 

Small activities like wearing their favorite perfume, playing their favorite song, or visiting their favorite places can help you accept the loss and feel the way their presence did impact your life. Memories with them are your gift for life; no one can take them away from you.